Is it creepy to request him on Facebook?

Question

I had a summer class with this guy but I never really spoke to him. I kinda slacked during the summer and didn't go to class all that much so we never had personal conversation.

I am 22 he is 24...were in college.
I feel things were much easier when you are a teenager regarding this type of thing....boys are easily flattered and not as easily creeped out. If we were 15 and I requested him he'd probably be stoked that a girl is talking to him. But we are adults .....people at this age read too much into things. I think he might find it creepy that I am requesting him 4 months later.

Or think I am in love with him or something and that he has a big upper had on me. I just find him really attractive and he is an out of state student like me so that caught my attention.

We don't have any mutual friends so I can't pretend I found him on chance.

Should I just forget about this?

I feel people will say guys love attention and to go for it, without thinking to themselves how they would actually feel if it happened to them. If a guy I hardly knew and only saw in a summer class requested me after 4 months, I might find it odd. Wouldnt you? Im just playing devils advocate. Even if he were attractive I would find it odd. Dont get me wrong I would still accept him and be happy about it but I would wonder how long he has been stalking my page for him to just request me out of nowhere 4 months after the class has ended, especially with no mutual friends.

I caught him staring at me a few times in class, so Im hoping that works in my favor but it could have just been by chance. Sometimes I stare at people I dont find attractive.

I have not seen him in school this semester and think he may have graduated, so I have not had another chance to see him in person.

I just find him really attractive and he is an out of state student like me so that caught my attention.

And if I were to request him.....and he accepted me....what would I even say!? Surely I would have to say something.....but I would just feel far too forward and stalker-ish requesting him and then starting a convo with him too. I feel if I requested him and he were interested he should take the next step and message me. I need a damn good excuse to request and message him....especially with no mutual friends......This is going to have to be super smooth and coy come on guys help me out lol

Answer 1

Just do it. Nothing to lose.

Answer 2

If you want to get to know him and possibly go out with him, just go for it. Add him, then message him. Tell him the truth, that you find him attractive and would like to get to know him. If he doesn't like you, he will probably say so but if you probably aren't going to see him again it shouldn't matter. I think guys like it when girls ask them out. I know I do, although it only happened once and I actually turned her down. (Later after being friends with her I realized my mistake but it was too late)

Answer 3

you caught him staring at you because he feels your staring at him -.-

but its ok if you add him on facebook, nothing to lose, what if he feels the same way too? haha. just do it girl :)

Answer 4

Nope, I've sent friend request to people I didn't talk to.

Answer 5

try to expose your views. don't hide your feelings, because you want that. be straight.